Susan
Well I keep trying to get a message to you. The first one I don't think I did right the second I got kicked out so I'm going to try to be faster this time. My son had the same problem at about the same age. He could never tell me why he did it. The doctors I took him to gave me the same answers you've been given. As well as he's just lazy, and he dosen't take the time to quite what he's doing and go. When the school threatened to kick him out of school I finally found a doctor who knew what was going on. I took him to a gastro-intestonal specialist. I don't know if I spelled it right it's been nealy 15 years ago. He had blocked intestons. The doctor said it probably started with being constipated and the pain and he just didn't go the blockage got worse and worse. His intestons where very inlarged. The only thing that got past was the liquid and my son had absolutely no control over it nor could he tell when it was going to happen it was more of a seepage. It's called fecal incontinance. Good luck. There is a medical reason.