Nan
There are bereavement groups in your area. Call your nearest hopice..they are great at the San Diego hospice .. and ask them for the number of the group nearest to you. This really helps. Talking about your Mom and having people listen without looking away is the biggest help in theworld. Have you ever read the poem, "An Elephant in the Room"? Ann Landers publishes it every once in a while. If you want i will Email you a copy. I recently did a speech at Toastmasters based on the poem. I lost a 37 year old daughter to cancer almost 2 years ago. Talking about her has done more to ease the pain than time or distance ever could.